[quote user="Sandra Dixon"]
My son is 8 years old and was diagnosed about 8 months ago. He seemed to be doing really well and very accepting in the beginning... but lately he has been a different little boy. He has not been listening as well, picking fights more with his brothers and being straight out defiant. today at supper (right after getting a shot) he took his fork and scrapped a huge mark into our dinning room table! when I asked why would he do something like that he said "I don't like having diabetes."
I responded by saying that I don't like it either but I can't make it go away and that scratching marks in my table will not make it go away and that kind of behavior is not acceptable in this house. (but inside me I felt like crying.)
I don't know how to help him and I really want to... I want my sweet little boy back! any suggestions?
Diabetes is a lot to deal with especially when you are the only one in the family who has it. Do you make him different food, or does he eat the same as everybody else? A lot of what kids don't want when they have a chronic illness is to be looked at, or treated differently than others. He is probably picking fights because he doesn't know how to deal with the anger and hurt he feels towards his body for getting sick.
I don't know if you have looked into this or not, but I was told to seek counseling when I was diagnosed. My doctor said that she makes all newly diagnosed patients go to counseling...it would also be good for him to have a non family member to talk to about everything. Sometimes having a place to vent about how much we hate diabetes is healthy. As far as the fork and your table are concerned...you need to teach him a coping mechanism. A counselor can help with this. S/he will make him aware of what he is doing and provide and alternate source into which he can let his emotions flow into. Let him overlook as you are on this site so he can see that there are normal successful people who deal with the same disease as him. One day there will be a cure, but until then we all need to just hang in there.
Good Luck! I hope this helps.