I filed this under "Friends & Family" because here, that's what we are. I consider everyone here a friend - you are all part of my diabetes family. Without Juvenation, I'm not quite sure where I would be, but I know I would be a lot less happy :o)
I am posting this in the main forum because I am not allowed to send private messages to people I am not friends with and those who are under 18. It is also my hope that others will see this and add their input. This post is specifically aimed for one person in particular, but I also hope others will see it and respond. It's not my place to name names or point fingers. You know who you are. I hope you take what we have to say to heart.
People lie or make things up for all sorts of reasons - all of which seem logical to them at the time. They may be protecting someone, or something, or even themselves - with the unawareness of who could be lurking on the internet, it seems reasonable to want to protect identity. Hence the reason I go only by the letter C. I like to be able to google my name and find nothing out there about me. Someone may lie out of shame or embarrassment, or the desperate attempt to fit in. There are also those who lie out of cruelty, malice, or other negative intentions.
Whatever the reason, Juvenation is a place for everyone to come without being afraid. Here, we all have something in common that brings us together. Lying has no place. We long to help others and let them know they are not alone. However, if you are not truthful or honest with us, we cannot help you. When you lie, make things up, or copy another person's post and claim it as your own, you hurt no one but yourself. It is hard to gain people's trust when they doubt you are who you say you are. And after awhile, it's hard for even you to keep track of your own little fibs.
Eventually, people catch on. They notice things - little inconsistencies, similarities between your posts and what someone else previously mentioned, odd remarks, or just the strangeness in your inability to talk about yourself. Whoever you are, whatever the reasons that brought you here, we are friends. Be honest with us. Whatever you are dealing with, we can help you move past it. But you have to be honest.
With friendship and family comes trust. With trust comes honesty. Let us see who you really are. Let us help you.