Our 6 year old son was hospitalized and diagnosed with T1D in May 2019. Managing our son’s diabetes started to get a little easier and not as overwhelming around February. As I was coming out of the “all consuming cloud of learning to take care of our son” around January/February 2020 I noticed my husband would fall asleep in our son’s bed when doing a glucose test after our “low” Dexcom alarms would go off in the middle of the night or other new irresponsible parenting behavior. (incredibly frustrating since he had always been an active and helpful parent with both our kids since they were newborns)
We’ve been married for 12 years, and I would have said we’ve had a strong, happy, and fulfilling marriage with communication, but he was a completely different person. I attributed it to months of sleep deprivation and adjusting to our “new normal”, and was completely blindsided when I found out his “occasional 1-2 beers a night” had changed into hiding multiple shots of vodka and many more beers every single night.
Is there anyone else who has been through a similar experience? I feel like I just survived the trauma of year 1 with diabetes, just to be thrown into another crisis with my husband turning into an alcoholic. We are going through “marriage counseling” (So far the focus has been on how alcohol has affected our home life, which is mortifying to me to accept I cannot shelter my children from) at a substance rehab facility, and I’m seeing a therapist there too for help with coping with an alcoholic spouse, but right now it just feels so overwhelming to be hit with 2 severely life changing illnesses to our “previously healthy” family.
If anyone has any advice or suggestions (Al-Anon is a group I need to look into as well) I would sincerely appreciate the support.