My daughter just got di Diagnosed with type one and she’s 14 Very nervous mom

Hi @Madhokraj. People with diabetes learn to recognize the signs that their blood sugar is low - they vary from person to person and your daughter will learn get own responses and must important, how to treat them. I was diagnosed at 3, and by the time I was maybe 5 I could tell my mom and dad that I felt funny. We didn’t have glucose meters out CGMS back then but we knew it meant I needed to eat. As I got older I was able to define the sensations and knew due myself what they meant and what I needed to do. A CGM will give you both GREAT peace of mind.
As for living a normal life, there’s no reason she can’t as long as she puts in the work to care for herself. There are a number of celebrities, professional and Olympic athletes, entertainers (Nick Jonas is one popular with teen girls), and even Supreme Court Justice Sonya Sotomayor. Some diabetics engage in endurance events such as marathon running and distance biking. And most of us lead lives with some combination of jobs or careers, school, spouses, parents, hobbies, friends, and interests. There is a saying that “I have diabetes - diabetes did not have me.” Right now you feel - understandably - like it’s got you in its clutches; but with time and learning you will find this comes more easily and naturally. There will always be some worry, but it will be more manageable.


Thanks Wada I am crying after reading this I guess it’s a emotional relief thanks so much all this information is very helpful.yes the CGM sounds very helpful so with that I’ll be able to find out her glucose level from anywhere right? Without her calling me just by attaching my contact information right?

I use a CGM made by Dexcom, and it has a feature called Dexcom Share. I don’t use it myself so I do not have details, but as I understand it you can connect to her Dexcom so it automatically sends her readings to your smartphone so you can see how she’s doing.
I suggest you speak with her doctor or diabetes nurse educator to learn about how it works and what it does and does not do - it will help her manage her diabetes but there are things she must do herself. They can give you specifics about how it works. Medtronic also has a CGM you might look into. There have been discussions on the forum comparing the two, and if course you should do your own research online to learn about both.

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Ok thanks …I think Cgm will be great more question as a nervous mom I wanna know if we are monitoring and managing then hopefully glucagon will never be needed … What I’m trying to say that she will be never in that situation if we are taking cares right

Episodes of low blood sugar come with diabetes; but many or most can be managed before Glucagon is needed. There is also a new product that is inhaled to bring up blood sugar, and may be easier to handle if there is an emergency as you don’t need to measure anything - just put it in the nose and squeeze, to put it bluntly. In nearly 60 years of diabetes I’ve only needed help twice. A always carry some fast carbs with me in case of an emergency.

Hi Chetna @Madhokraj, I can relate to, and easily understand how your daughter, and you too, would be nervous. YES, she is beginning a new, and very significant life. I will say, to relieve a small portion of your anxiety that your daughter will be able to still lead an exciting, a full, and active life.

Visiting here you will be exposed to many of the “difficulties” and “pit-falls” experienced by other people living with diabetes - an almost natural phenomenon of a posting forum because most people only post when having difficulties. I will assure you, that there can be more positive aspects of your daughter’s life simply because she will develop a mentality for life disciplines just because she has mastered diabetes - one of the major life-time obstacles. Personally, after being diagnosed with diabetes on my 16th birthday, I’ve had a prosperous business life both while working in my own company, while working in government, in large private business organizations including serving a President/CEO of a national entity, as an elected representative, and mostly enjoying life.

meeting other people, personally, with diabetes is a way both your daughter and you van see the positive side of diabetes. Too bad that this pandemic has put some limits on gatherings, but you can still find and talk with friendly people like yourselves at JDRF Chapters. Click the “Events” Tab at the top of this page, select "JDRF Near You", and enter your ZIP Code or city name.

Another suggestion, take a breath, enjoy your daughter as a person, take things bit-by-bit while listening to her doctor. You do have much to learn and “diabetes” will come to you over time. Ask questions whenever needed, just as you did 14 years ago when your daughter arrived. As a new parent, I still remember ALL that I had to learn, even though I had four younger siblings each of whom I “helped” raise. Diabetes is your new adventure.

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Oh then I will find out about that more but thanks for answering.its very helpful

Thanks Tyron after reading this I feel much better thanks God bless you.

Her sugar is now in between 108 to 170
But she is complaining blurred vision …not too much but slightly specially yesterday when it was 268 after lunch I am scared pls reply .i called the doctor they said they will call me back …

Hi @Madhokraj. You and your daughter will find yourselves adding some specialists to your health care team, one of which is is ophthalmologist familiar with diabetes. (An ophthalmologist handles any medical conditions involving the eye and should not be confused with an optometrist, who handles eye health and vision exams, diagnosing vision problems, etc. Ophthalmologists do what optometrists do, and more.)
Sorry to get off topic. Blood sugar issues can cause vision problems - it can be one of the symptoms, in which case getting back into range should get her vision back to normal. Diabetes can cause eye problems, so it will be good for her to see an eye doctor as suggested above to make sure that’s not going on. Hopefully since she was just recently diagnosed that’s not an issue, but it will be good for her eye doctor to get a baseline to compare with future visits.
If your insurance has a diabetes help line you may find it helpful to call if your doctor is not responding as promptly as you like.
PS - 180-170 sounds great!

Hi Chetna,
I was in your situation 2 years back when our daughter (16 now) was diagnosed with T1D, right in the summer before beginning high school and 2 weeks before we were moving across countries. Life changes completely and we as parents will continue to think and worry about our children for ever, I think, but we learn and get better each and every day and technology certainly helps. Our approach has always been to have our daughter and our whole family lead life as we would, with or without T1D, and manage diabetes along the way. I read a lot and forums and communities such as this help get so much useful information, but as has been said by many, every individual is different and every day for the same person is also very different. Just have to go with the flow.
I am happy to chat with you anytime if you have any specific questions.
Stay positive and strong. Things definitely get better.

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Thanks so much I will make an app with eye doc ASAP thanks

Thanks so much very nervous since she is daylong she is seeing little blurry but only for 2 min in the morning

Hi She had dinner at 8 o’clock after that we went for a walk but she start playing in the park volleyball for like 20 minutes and she sweat a lot so when I came back home her blood sugar was 116 before she slept. Her target is 150 so I was worried about if she’ll go low so I gave her one chocolate chip cookies and a glass of milk with four almonds and checked her sugar it was 135. I checked again at 3:30 am now it’s 68 j so I gave her half cup of cereal with almond milk and one apple juice and i chocolate cookie and I checked after 15 minutes it’s 135 I don’t know if I did the right thing if or I gave her so much sugar because I also gave her one more chocolate chip cookie just now because she said she’s Still feeling low.

Hi @Madhokraj. I find it sometimes takes my sensations a while to catch up with my numbers following a low. For instance, I was a little low while shopping so I had a snack, and even though my CGM showed 110⬆️ (rising) I still felt a little funny, but after a while my numbers and my feelings were back in line. Also, if a person is accustomed to running high - which she may have been since she is newly diagnosed - numbers in the good range may feel low since the body needs to adjust.
One thing you will want to do is learn if there are patterns. If she is frequently around 70 overnight she may need a change in her overnight basal insulin, but since you are new this is something you need to do with doctor’s supervision. Or she may need to adjust her bedtime snack based on her reading at that time.
Have you had a visit with a nutritionist yet? They will give you both invaluable guidance on meals and snacks, and what sticks with you, at least if your basal insulin is determined correctly. BTW, I’m a bit of a night owl so you may see something from me in the early morning hours on the east coast. On the forum we share tips, experience and learnings from our years with diabetes, but medical advice needs to come from your doctor. It’s helpful to keep thorough records of what you did in response to certain symptoms or readings, and ask the doctor to confirm if you were on target. You are on a learning curve and right now it feels like you’re climbing Mount Everest, but you will gain confidence.
Speaking of which, having a snack before bed was a good thing following a walk and a small drop in her numbers. Exercise can affect blood sugar for a while afterwards, so you may not realize it but your instincts kicked in to say “I’d better check her overnight” and follow up with another snack based on her reading. I hope that, with the guidance of her doctor and nutritionist, your daughter will get the confidence to start learning to respond on her own.

Thanks so much yes I have an appointment on Monday with nutritionist it was very sleepless Night since I don’t have CGM yet and it’s all new but trust me reading EVERYONES response helps a lot.thanks GBU

My pleasure. In so glad you have that appointment on Monday. People with diabetes used to be restricted to a very draconian diet, with very few choices to speak of. Now it’s a matter of learning to count carbs and match your insulin to them.

Hay… Snap my daughter got diagnosed in march and is 14. I know exactly what you are going through because im the same. Im getting obsessed with meal times aswell i feel she needs to have lunch no later then 12.30. Dinner at 6. If its late im a nervous wreck. Untill my daughters DN had a few tips to deal with late meals. I still get nervous but not to the extent of tears any more. Its so hard because you want to do everything right and so scared of getting things wrong. I have the diabetes team on speed dial now lol and i use it. Paige my daughter will not be going to school till September so il cross that bridge when i come to it. She has not been out on her own yet that scares me to death. I live in the uk In Leicester so just had a extra 2weeks lock down atleast. Hows your daughter dealing with the diagnose? Paige doesn’t want to tell anyone. So your doing a fantastic job and i hear it gets easier. If you need to chat please message me.

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Hi @Hayleyuk, from the United States. I was diagnosed as a very young child so by the time I was your daughter’s age I was pretty well versed in caring for myself. That was in the mid 1970s and we didn’t have the technology available now. I took 1 shot a day, and learned what it felt like to “be low” and how to treat it - we didn’t even have BG meters until about the time I finished college! My mom did have “chats” with other moms beforeI went to visit friends, and I’m sure she worried if I would be okay. But I could stay overnight with a friend, take my designated dose of insulin in the morning (again, things were very different back then) and return home none the worse for wear.
I knew lots of people feel embarrassed about their diabetes or don’t want to tell anyone for various reasons. I’ve always been pretty open about it and for the most part it’s no big deal. People don’t seem to give it a second thought. There are lots of people with various medical needs - food allergies, seizures, asthma, etc. that require regular administration of medicine, vigilant attention to what the body is telling you, and other details. I believe how you handle it yourself determines how others will respond.
It is an adjustment, but I hope your daughter is able to say some day, “I have diabetes - it does not have me.”
If you do a search on this forum for “Looking for friends” you will find people from various age groups looking for people to communicate with online, including some teens. I always advise proceeding with caution as you can’t be too careful these days, but she could make some friends overseas.
Wishing you the best as you all adjust.

Chetna @Madhokraj, each of us is a little different in how our body reacts to exercise and to food, but to me, needing this much food [carbohydrate] 7 1/2 hours after exercise, in addition to the 20 grams of carb she had before bedtime, I’d guess that her previous insulin dose was significantly too high for her meal intake.

I trust that this information was given to her doctor. I know that your daughter’s diagnosis is very recent, but if episodes like this continue significant modification of insulin dosing might be necessary. Her doctor will tell her, and I’d agree, that adjusting insulin is an on-going process, and will need continuing adjustment. Patience, and monitoring - along with frustration - will be in her future.

Believe me Chetna, this will become easier, almost routing and second nature. I’m still frustrated occasionally especially on days that I thought I was doing everything correctly.