When I originally posted this article I knew it would spark passionate discussion and I suspected that some people might take it the wrong way. I think those that are saying this article is condescending should reread it.
Its not irresponsibly spreading any myths. It never says anywhere that people with Type 1 diabetes that decide to have children are irresponsible. It never implies it either. The author never tells readers what decision they should make. It is one person's perspective about her decision to adopt because of this very real issue. It was about her and her family.
Statistics prove that children of Type 1 parents are more likely to also develope diabetes. Thats a fact. Even though the risk of having a child with diabetes is higher for diabetics than non-diabetics, they are still relatively small. Children of men with Type 1 diabetes have a 6% chance of developing diabetes. With women, the risks vary. A child born to a woman with Type 1 diabetes, who is younger than 25 years old, has a 4% chance of getting diabetes. After that age, the risk drops to 1%. The odds double if the parent was diagnosed prior to the age of 11 years old. Children of non-diabetic parents have less than a 1% chance of getting Type 1 diabetes.
As the person that posted this article and as someone planning to start a family in the next few years, this topic really hit home for me. I am worried about potentially passing on diabetes to my children because I know how hard living with this disease really is. Adoption is something I am considering. Of course, adoption comes with its own set of potential risks.
I think Kelsey did a nice job in writing the article, sharing a very personal decision in an attempt to potentially help others, and give her point of view. Just as each of you is entitled to make your own decisions and express your views, so is she. That doesn't make her condescending. It also doesn't mean that you have to agree with her.
I have noticed in this forum there is a tendency by some to easily get "offended" or read a negative meaning into a post that just isn't there. This is a forum for people with Type 1 diabetes, meaning in one way or another, we're all in the same boat. Anyone reading between the lines should stop and read what's actually in the article instead of easily getting their feathers ruffled.
I think people sometimes shy away from acknowledging some of the serious issues associated with diabetes because its not PC. But, as much as we all like think to that there are no difference in being diabetic, unfortunately there are. That doesn't mean we can't work hard to ensure diabetes doesn't slow us down. There are some things though that all the hard work in the world won't change and one of them is the statistics associated with the risks of passing diabetes to our children. The sad fact is that data shows children of parents with Type 1 diabetes are at greater risk. That was an issue that Kelsey evaluated differently than some others do. Its also apparent from the article to me that it wasn't the only factor as I think its pretty clear that she also felt passionately about adopting a child that didn't have a home. Her decision was right for her as I'm sure it will be for some others.
Anyway, for what its worth, thats my two cents.