So both of our kids (ages 5 & 3) were recently diagnosed with type 1. Prior to that, we had very limited knowledge or understanding of the disease itself, so the last month has been whirlwind of learning and research to try to understand as much as we can. Our medical care team has been awesome and we speak to them probably 2-3 times a week to report BG numbers, ask questions, adjust dosing, etc. So being so new to everything, we try to follow the care teams instructions as close as possible. We’re by no means perfect, and are still learning so we’ve made some mistakes along the way.
My mother-in-law has been very engaged in the training and even came to the hospital to learn how to figure carbs, dosing, and injecting as well. So we’re very grateful for her, and have expressed that to her on several occasions. She is, however, a very head strong individual who always like to think she’s got everything figured out. She recently asked if the grandkids could spend the night at her house, which they used to do on a somewhat regular basis. They love going, and she loves having them. But since their diagnosis, they haven’t spent the night, and some of the “research” she’s done has us a little leery about doing so right now. It’s a lot of home remedy type stuff that makes us nervous that she may try to implement due to her “I know what’s best” attitude. So we’ve been up front with her that we aren’t comfortable with an overnight trip right now, and explained the reasons why. All this has seemed to do, is offend her and have her go to the extreme of saying, well I guess you just don’t want me in the kids lives anymore…which is absolutely not the case, but she likes to play the victim when things don’t go how she wants them to.
Anyway, I’m just wondering if any other parents have had to deal with this type of issue, and also wanting suggestions on how to approach this maybe differently. Should we have lied, and just said they kids had a birthday party to go to or something? We thought being honest with a gentle touch was the best way, but now we’re second guessing ourselves. Or maybe we’re just being overly protective? Like I said, we’re so new to this, that everything right now is kind of black and white, but I know as things get more familiar, there’s going to be some grey areas…
Thanks in advance