I am going thru the same thing with my son now. He is 15 and was diagnosed 14 months ago. I guess I was not as trusting with my son and made him check his BG in front of us. After awhile we started to give him some leaway - letting him handle his infusion with his pump, check his sugars at school etc. I would track his numbers on the software. About a month ago his numbers started to go high. I asked all the questions - what did you eat - nothing - is your infusion in correctly - yes, how are things going at school - fine. We tried all the things to avoid confrontation or alienation and it didn't matter.
We found empty cookie packages, pop tarts, crackers, candy bars etc. under his bed, we found then in the basement, and other places where we normally do not go or look. He was in the high 400's many times. We would ask him his numbers when he would check his BG in front of us and he would say oh, its 151 when it was 351 or something like that. That was starting to happen alot. We also found he would not bolusing after eating which drove us crazy because he just had to push some buttons and he was not doing that.
I would like to say at this point things are good - but he is 15 and sometimes its a battle.
I have been to many JDRF Retreats and talked to other parents of teens and this is NOT unusual for the age and it does not matter if they were diagnosed last year or 10 years ago.
So, they all do it but it doesn't help sometimes to know that.
What I have started to do is go back to square one - every night before bed I get his meter and pump and download the info. I can find out his BG numbers as well as his bolus amounts.
My son also refuses to get on Juvenation to talk to other teens. I don't know why but I know I can't force him to talk to people if he doesn't want to and i know I could force it but he would do it for awhile and then stop. I wish I knew why he doesn't want to do it.
Neither of our kids are bad kids - they are just tired of having limitations put on them by diabetes. Both of our kids knew what it was like to eat anything they wanted and now we watch - as parents we recommend - maybe eat something that is not loaded with sugar like a candy bar and eat something healthy like yogurt. Sometimes they want a candy bar. I think the lack of bolus is just a small protest against the disease. They know they can adjust later - its always later. For them its a matter of numbers - they think "I can fool my parents so many times and then get caught and when that happens I will handle it then".
The one thing I learned from the classes and seminars and talking to other parents is that as much as we want them to have responsibility for T1 most will not. They will do exactly what our kids are doing. The adivise I got from the pro's. Trust but verify.